How to make the most of your coaching journey!

So, you have decided to dive into some personal development and engage a coach to help! Congratulations! As with anything that has a very personal goal on the line, a very serious commitment must be made. But there is one thing that many people don’t prioritise, which leaves them unable to reach their full coaching potential. That’s consistency.

Consistency is the key to success, in whatever area of life you are focusing on. When it comes to coaching, consistency is more crucial than ever!

Mindset, ProductivityDimuthu Perera11 September 2020life coaching, consistency, personal development, success, commitmentComment

Spring Cleaning

A big part of our Spring Cleaning process is the act of getting rid of unnecessary clutter. We pack away our winter woollies and bring out our shorts and hats. We roll away our heaters and bring out the fans. We clean out our kitchen cupboards of the chocolate treats and replace them with some healthier, greener options to start shedding the winter weight. Some of us are also cutting out our unhealthy relationships and replacing them with new connections. So, for the most part, we aren’t really clearing the clutter. We are just replacing it. As motivated as we are to get rid of the old, we are even more motivated to replace them! Because generally speaking, the majority of us humans are really uneasy with empty spaces; regardless of whether it is in our cupboards, on our bookshelves, in our schedules or in our minds. Spaces are uncomfortable. Gaps are awkward.

Productivity, WellbeingDimuthu Perera4 September 2020spring cleaning, spring, life coaching, declutterComment

Consistently Inconsistent

Our successes in our lives, from the seemingly simple to the more elaborate successes, can all be attributed to what we do consistently. Noticing our inconsistencies in behaviour and thinking, can give us the insights needed to explore the opposing behaviour and thinking too. Figuring this out can offer us great clarity to change things for the better.

How to Catch-Adapt-Act through change

Nobody likes change. Change can be hard. Change can be painful. Wouldn’t it be easier to stick our heads in the sand and wait it out? What if you could implement a quick 3 step process, I call CATCH - ADAPT - ACT and simplify your change process a little?

MindsetDimuthu Perera21 August 2020change, life coaching, change coaching, you inspiredComment

Building Quality Relationships - Part 3

The third step is Communication. Communication ties the first two steps together nicely. It determines the type of connection we form with another person. It represents the moment to moment invitations we give to the other person for a particular level of trusting connection.

Kids, RelationshipsDimuthu Perera14 August 2020relationships, building relationships, life coaching, trust, communication, you inspiredComment

Building Quality Relationships - Part 2

Although many fruitful relationships have lasted a long time and weathered many storms and life experiences, this does not guarantee their quality. Long term relationships especially, require extra effort to maintain trust and to grow the relationship.

There is, however, no long term relationship that will ever last as long as the one you have with yourself.

Building Quality Relationships - Part 1

Many would claim the quality of a relationships is based on the level of trust they have with the other person. However, what many have not considered is that the quality of a relationship is how we connect through trust with the other. That is to say, trust isn’t the unbreakable entity that unites two people in a relationship, trust is the mode of connection that is chosen again and again.

When you’re the least loved in the family.

When I sit with my adult clients in a coaching session and we discuss their childhoods and their relationships with their parents, many say the same thing. “I know they loved me…in their own way, but I didn’t feel it all the time”. I always follow up with the question “so how do you know when you are being loved?” and that stumps them every single time. A standard answer is “because I feel good”

The importance of The End.

My dream of ‘freedom’ is with an image of me strolling through the country side of some quaint little European village, the sun on my face and a warm fresh breeze blowing through my hair. Time is endless and I am able to choose how I spend it. I am happy and relaxed. That’s the dream I have, writing to you from this venue one day in the future. FREEDOM.

Mindset, ProductivityDimuthu Perera10 July 2020Endings, freedom, life vision, life coaching, you inspiredComment

The 3 Worst Goals You Keep Setting

Goal setting is not something we have all been taught to do properly. Yet, from a young age we were taught that goals are important for our success. From finishing homework to completing chores, as young kids, we were encouraged to complete short term tasks as a means of learning the ability to then complete bigger and more longer term goals. As kids, some of us were motivated through extrinsic means in the hopes it would inspire some intrinsic drive. We were given awards and allowances. We were praised and rewarded. When goals were not achieved, we were criticised and punished.

ProductivityDimuthu Perera3 July 2020Goals, life vision, life coaching, future, SMART goals, YouinspiredComment

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