Motivation is the root of all successes. Regardless of your goal, regardless of how compelling your vision may be, most of us struggle to stick to our new years resolutions quite early on. As parents, we have an added responsibility to motivate our children too. We want to ensure they do their best at school, socially and look after themselves. If we can’t even motivate ourselves most of the time, how can we motivate someone else?
Studies have shown us that high emotional intelligence and awareness play a far greater role in predicting life success than IQ alone. This means, having a good understanding of self, how we regulate and respond to emotions and then connect with our environments are skills that will impact the quality of the lives we lead. So, without a good understanding of ourselves and our internal drivers, how can we motivate ourselves? And without this motivation, how can we possibly achieve our goals anyway?
A healthy sense of motivation is achieved by following through a process of:
Self-awareness - deep understanding of who we are and how we respond to our emotions;
Formation of healthy habits to support a growth mindset;
The use of carefully chosen extrinsic rewards to compliment the intrinsic ones; and finally
Commitment to see it through.
However, if you’re like most people who have lost the drive already, then that’s probably because you’re going through this list backwards. This means you are determining your goal and then;
4. Committing 100% to seeing it through… somehow
3. Seeking extrinsic rewards for mismatched vague intrinsic ones;
2. Forming habits to ensure you align yourself with the above short term rewards and;
1. Learning more about yourself through this process, especially what you are not particularly good at. There is nothing motivating about this!
If this resonated with you then that is fantastic! Now you can simply flip this process back the right way around and give your goals the best chance of being realised. If you need some help doing this, there are plenty of tools and services out there, feel free to reach out and ask us!